Get yourself back

Spending time towards oneself is very less or almost none. The current scenario of lifestyle manipulated many of us. Unfortunately, we don't know or feel this 'manipulative me' or we realise it is so late and difficult to come back even if we want. That means at one stage we are completely lost our own self, in a more simple sense our own individuality. Short term and uncertain pleasure and happiness is the major reason to 'lose our self'. Undeniably other factors too. Let us analyse this in a very practical sense. 

Reasons for loosening self:

1. Relationships: Humans are sensible and affectionate creatures. The combination of the human body and mind are operated by the networking system controlled by physiological and psychological factors. The relationship is not a one-way process. It is an obvious thing when two individuals getting closer together tend to give up or control one's own instincts and wishes for the other. Here the 'self' is sacrificed for the other for the sake of a relationship.

2. Parentral pressure: All children are unique and different in abilities and talents. Parenteral views are different from the children. For the sake of keeping the familial status or some other reasons, children are forced to be the victims of their parent's wishes. Here their self-interests and instincts are crushed by their own family whom they have to depend on mentally, physically, socially and economically till a certain stage.

3. Sitauationalship: Another 'ship' is added in our contemporary psychology. Many are the victims of the exposed situations. As we all know, external attractions are so much and readily available. These short term pleasurable actions make the individual 'just taste' at the beginning and lead to addiction. These addictions may vary like using drugs, sexual stuff, online gaming and others.

4. Personal goals: Goal setting is absolutely necessary for every individual. These goals are set by considering the individual abilities. setting the goals only based on the interests lead to underachievement or crashing self-esteem. In order to meet the target or goal the individual struggles by giving up his own 'self' and changing a lot.

5. Result of any impact: Life is so uncertain. Not everyone is having a strong mind. An incident, an image, a movie, a drama, literature, a person, a preacher can influence a person and make him lose his 'self'. This is clearly evidenced by comparing his or her past and post-life after the specific thing happened. 

suggestions to get yourself back:

1. Trust in yourself. Try to foresee the next stage of life by analysing the present scenario

2. Use your brain more than your heart in making decisions

3. Make your judgements genuinely not the way you want

4. Consider all the factors within you and your surrounding before taking a major step

5. Don't jump into anything to gain small and short term happiness or enjoyment. You may have to pay a heavy price for this. It is a warning for you

6. Try to grow strong principles and policies in your personal life. Remember, always self-disciplines brings you a lot of inner peace and harmony, only you yourself can feel it

7. Above all, any external, non-judgemental force is there to be at your side then utilise it. But it is the toughest task in the current scenario.

"Love, trust and treat yourself first before into others"

Model for the child's behaviour

Child-rearing practices are challenging. Understanding the child's psychology is not so easy task for parents. One among the most search area on google is child-rearing. Even a simple step or an effort helps the parents to obtain the great desired outcome. A classical example is written below.
I used to go to church with my family often. A small activity in his behaviour was bothering me. It was quite difficult for him to clap his hands during the songs session. Many times I told him and my wife too. But he didn't. I almost lost my hope for this corrective action.
It was a surprise that he started clapping on that particular day. I was happy and relieved. But I wanted to know the reason for his change. Because I couldn't correct him for months and now he has changed on his own. 
Every time during the singing session, I used to carry the songbook in my hands and sing. That particular day onwards there was a screen placed in front of us and we followed that. Hence, my hands were free to clap. when my son saw me was clapping he started doing the same. 
Here I learned a lesson. Before I try to correct any action in my son, I need to correct myslef!!!

Achievement

Chances are plenty

Opportunities are limited 

Everyone likes it

Many try for it

Few grab it

Success follows it

Humanitarian never dies

It was almost 6 pm. I was standing in front of a tea shop and enjoying my tea. Shop vendor was busy in the business and few like me were zipping the teacups.

Suddenly a man who was very shabbily dressed, malnourished and poorly groomed came towards me.  I was in confusion about whether to avoid him or attend to him. Others were also there, but he came directly to me.

I made a guess that he is hungry and asking me to get some snacks for him and I was not wrong. I went to the shopkeeper and paid for 2 vadas. The shopkeeper understood the purpose of my deal. I paid only for 2 vadas, but he put 4 in that parcel.

I gave it to the man who has approached me with some hope. His expressions through his eyes and face made me feel as if I have done something so great. I finished my tea and the shopkeeper and left.

The high light here is, a small and negligible initiation for the service to humankind makes many follow and involve the same.  I was highly motivated to do many more like this!!!

Learning

Familiarise the unfamiliar

Bad always first and good follows later

Faster in young and slow at old

Can be formal or casual

Possible by choice and chance

Makes the unknown into known