Spending time towards oneself is very less or almost none. The current scenario of lifestyle manipulated many of us. Unfortunately, we don't know or feel this 'manipulative me' or we realise it is so late and difficult to come back even if we want. That means at one stage we are completely lost our own self, in a more simple sense our own individuality. Short term and uncertain pleasure and happiness is the major reason to 'lose our self'. Undeniably other factors too. Let us analyse this in a very practical sense.
Reasons for loosening self:
1. Relationships: Humans are sensible and affectionate creatures. The combination of the human body and mind are operated by the networking system controlled by physiological and psychological factors. The relationship is not a one-way process. It is an obvious thing when two individuals getting closer together tend to give up or control one's own instincts and wishes for the other. Here the 'self' is sacrificed for the other for the sake of a relationship.
2. Parentral pressure: All children are unique and different in abilities and talents. Parenteral views are different from the children. For the sake of keeping the familial status or some other reasons, children are forced to be the victims of their parent's wishes. Here their self-interests and instincts are crushed by their own family whom they have to depend on mentally, physically, socially and economically till a certain stage.
3. Sitauationalship: Another 'ship' is added in our contemporary psychology. Many are the victims of the exposed situations. As we all know, external attractions are so much and readily available. These short term pleasurable actions make the individual 'just taste' at the beginning and lead to addiction. These addictions may vary like using drugs, sexual stuff, online gaming and others.
4. Personal goals: Goal setting is absolutely necessary for every individual. These goals are set by considering the individual abilities. setting the goals only based on the interests lead to underachievement or crashing self-esteem. In order to meet the target or goal the individual struggles by giving up his own 'self' and changing a lot.
5. Result of any impact: Life is so uncertain. Not everyone is having a strong mind. An incident, an image, a movie, a drama, literature, a person, a preacher can influence a person and make him lose his 'self'. This is clearly evidenced by comparing his or her past and post-life after the specific thing happened.
suggestions to get yourself back:
1. Trust in yourself. Try to foresee the next stage of life by analysing the present scenario
2. Use your brain more than your heart in making decisions
3. Make your judgements genuinely not the way you want
4. Consider all the factors within you and your surrounding before taking a major step
5. Don't jump into anything to gain small and short term happiness or enjoyment. You may have to pay a heavy price for this. It is a warning for you
6. Try to grow strong principles and policies in your personal life. Remember, always self-disciplines brings you a lot of inner peace and harmony, only you yourself can feel it
7. Above all, any external, non-judgemental force is there to be at your side then utilise it. But it is the toughest task in the current scenario.
"Love, trust and treat yourself first before into others"
