Every one of us living in a world where a lot of options and choices. All are blessed with our abilities and talents to lead our life. Scientific advancements and technology makes our life more sophisticated and gets a platform to practice our abilities. Individual interests and preferences are varying and results in choosing of different educational, career and entertaining options. Owning of costly and sophisticated materials bring us comfort, but one can not deny the role of emotions on the process of gaining satisfaction.
We live in a world of competition. Every one of us involved with some kind of competition by knowingly or unknowingly. Some occasions we are not even knowing our competitor. Not always the results are good and happen in a way we want. Moreover, often we compare our self with others. Unfortunately, for the first stroke of our eyes, the positives and achievements of others will be seen. Making the comparison brings a challenge for our self-esteem and reflected in the form of personal insecurity.
Insecurity results in low self-esteem, low self-confidence. It brings a lot of negative thoughts. All of our positivity gets suppressed and negativity takes over. Overall, ending up with a failed attempt or escape from the attempt. There is no chance of achievement. Individual abilities get suppressed and even results in severe mental damage. Some of the real individual feelings as a result of insecurity are listed below:
· I am good for nothing; I am stupid
· I am unattractive; no one ever wants to be good with me
· I never get anything right with my attempts
· I am not like other people; I can’t do or perform like others
· I am a failure
· I am a loser
· I can’t make any friends, even I make I can’t maintain
· I never be able to quit drinking, smoking or overcome any kind of addiction
· I never accomplish anything.
This kind of negative thoughts comes in mind so often and force to pull out from our productive activities like quitting the job, discontinuation of studies, out of relationship etc.
Insecurity can be reflected in many areas of life. Some times it may affect the selected areas only. It varies from person to person. Here the fact is the person’s inner sense feel negatively and finding it difficult to change the attitude. Many insecure individuals seeking even therapies nowadays.
Common areas of insecurity
- Generalised Insecurity involves with all moments, initiations and activities of life
- Insecurity about workplace and responsibilities
- Insecurity over personal relationships
- Insecurity about the future, commonly seen in young adults
Suggestions to overcome insecurity
Insecurity is an inner, negative feeling. Only the person can feel the intensity of his or her problem, many occasions it can not be identified or treated better by others. Trained professionals deal with this condition better. But there are some easy ways to overcome on our own.
1. Deal back to your inner critic: Whenever the negative thoughts come in mind, talk yourself that you are strong enough to find the way. Remind yourself there is no gain by keeping a negative thought.
2. Pre-plan the conversations or activities: There are some situations you may not be comfortable or challenging. It is always better to do some homework before facing them. Pre preparation helps in avoiding embracing moments eventually leading to a question mark in your confidence level.
3. Avoid social situations that make things worse for you: It is better to avoid the presence of conflicting situations. Arguments or compelling to use the physical force worsen the state of mental equilibrium and results in damaging the self-confidence and feels insecure.
4. Setting the limited, realistic goal: Every one of us has our aspirations. There is no limit on our aspirations and imaginations. But the aim or goal in life should be based on realistic. Setting up the goals step by step is the wisest way of achieving a secured future.
5. Focus on self not on others: Your life is there for you to live. Comparing yourself with another is not a better choice of an idea. Only a few characteristics of an individual is visible outwardly. Hence focus on yourself and make your better choices and decisions.
6. Try to have a good circle around you: Selection of friend or friendship circle is so important in life. Genuine friends never judge. You do right or wrong they support. You can very well share your insecurities and get better suggestions for your challenges.
7. Approach the professionals: It is always good to get the opinions of experts belongs to mental health. They can help you to overcome your insecure feelings professionally. You can minimise your negative thoughts or replace them with the positivity and move on.
Insecurity is an inner threat. It occurs in different forms on different occasions. Day to day challenges makes us feel insecure. Insecurity about the next stage of life is a common challenge. Some times it may even lead to self-destructive thoughts and attempts. There is nothing to get panic or feel very low when you face challenges or failures. Consider them as a good learning experience and move on. Trust yourself first, look back your achievements so far, your interest, your will power is well enough to construct your great future!
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